This post is dedicated to all you beautiful women out there who think that they are just no "good", "pretty", "smart", "beautiful", "successful " enough:
Lilly looks in the mirror, she does not like what she sees...A tear rolls down her right cheek, she wipes it away and slaps her cheek and tells the person she is looking at : "Why are your cheeks so chubby you fat unworthy woman?!". Lilly thinks she is all alone in the room but as soon she turns around she sees her little seven year old daughter looking at her quizzically and confused.
Lilly runs towards her daughter and hugs her with a heart full of regret and a mind heavy with the guilt that in the very moment her daughter witnessed her self humiliation in front of the mirror, she just sent her daughter a message that will stick with her for the rest of her teenage and adolescent years: "It is okay to put yourself down, it is okay look down on yourself ".
Lilly's situation is certainly not a situation that any women should be in. How you look at yourself reflects not only on you but also on how you look in the eyes of others. If you keep telling yourself that you are a failure at a job, people will start seeing you that way and it will become a reality. If you keep telling yourself that you are ugly or fat, you will start acting and dressing that you are and people will perceive that image. Do not build your own negative reality. Destroy it and build a flourishing beautiful self image.
You were created as the person you are, there is no other person in the whole world who is like you. That itself, makes you unique and special. Why do we keep putting ourselves down and comparing ourselves to others and giving ourselves unrealistic expectations? It is not right in any way to look at ourselves negatively; if you keep giving yourself negative thoughts about you, sooner or later these negative thoughts will turn into a reality because you will just give into them and surrender. Think positive thoughts and praise yourself and you will eventually live up to those self raising self talks and you will start loving yourself more and this way you will be a happier, more content person.
Here are some ways that will help your positive self image :
1- Every morning write something you love about yourself in a pad next to your bed
2 - Acceptance. Accept your current status, and love yourself as who you are.
3- Talk about how you feel about yourself to someone you love and trust and they may surprise you with how amazing you may seem in other people's eyes without you even noticing.
4 - Try to eliminate negative self thoughts completely out of your mind by replacing each thought with something positive that you love about yourself.
5 - Step on your fears, and be confident and go for it. If there is a party and you are dying to wear that beautiful red dress of yours that your husband got you but you still haven't worn it because you think your hips look too big, wear it and rock it and see how many compliments you are going to get. Its all about self confidence, when you are confident with how you present yourself to yourself and others, your whole world will be entirely different, You will be content.
Always remember that you are the only person in the world who can let you rise and become the best person you want to be or fall and become a the person you are always afraid of becoming. Love yourself, embrace yourself and you will go to all the places you want yourself to reach.