When you first get pregnant, everyone appears to have something they have to say to you; whether its a reflection of their own experience with motherhood, or whether its a piece of advice or maybe just a few recommended tips that they think will help you, there a few things that no one will tell you because they are things that only you will have to experience to actually get a grasp of the true meaning of motherhood. Here are 5 things I did not know about the incredible privilege of being a mother:
1- The feeling of baby's first true kick in the belly!
No matter how many baby blogs or apps describe the feeling, you will not understand nor indulge the feeling of those little flutters unless you and only you feel them for the very first time. The more your baby kicks the more you will want him/her to kick. For me, it was so exhilarating because it truly made my baby's existence a reality.
2 - Oh those sleepless nights...
Yes, sleepless nights are real real real! When your newborn needs to be fed every two hours and a half, you will have to get up no matter what. And YES, that means that you will technically only get six hours of discontinued sleep a night. However, you can always nap during the day while your baby is napping. But don't freak out, you can always have your partner help you with one of those feedings and this way you can get 5 hours of continuous sleep. What made me get through it is the thought that my baby needs me and his life literally depended on it, so I am going to give him everything that I have got!
3- The importance of self care
Having and caring for a new human being takes a lot of time and effort (all your time, specially at the beginning). Adjusting to a life with a newborn will take some time; you will no longer be the main focus of your life and you will pour all your attention to this precious little creature and you will probably be exhausted out of your wits! However, it is very important that you give yourself a snippet of time so you can recharge and regain your focus and energy. In the first few weeks after my baby was born, I let myself have at least half an hour to myself daily and have my husband or mom take care of the baby while I do something for myself. Whether it is a walk around the neighborhood with my headphones or a nice warm shower and a cup of tea or maybe a hair makeover; I had to do something for myself to regain the inner strength I needed to get back to focusing on my beautiful baby.
4 - How fast time flies!
Blink..you are pregnant, another Blink..your baby is born..another Blink, its your baby's first birthday!
Yes, being a mother makes you so busy that your days just fly by without you noticing. Embrace each moment with your baby because he/she will keep changing and transforming until well..he/she is not longer a baby!
5 - The love you feel for your child
So this one is a no-brainer, but no one, not even my words will describe the amount of love and connection you will feel for your child from the moment he/she is born. This love will only grow as he/she grows. Its a feeling that is so over powering that you can actually feel like you are powerless with how much love you have and need to give.
Always remember that every mother is unique in her own way because each and every one of us were made into the unique human beings that we are and that there are no two people who are exactly alike in this world. Every feeling, mistake or success that you have or make will be your own to reflect on and thrive of as a mother.